Friday, September 29, 2006

Today we celebrate the legal birth of our family. It's been two years that have gone by faster than I ever imagined they would. As we drove to the courthouse September 29, 2004, Erin asked me what she should call her biological mom. I told her that the choice was hers to make and that no one would be mad at her for the decision she made. She said to me very mater of factly, "Well you are going to be my mom now and that makes her my aunt, so I think I should call her aunt." Inside I was dying from the pain I knew this might cause my sister. I told her that she didn't have to make the decision right then, but it was a decision I let her make. Over the past two years she's always called me mom. When she talks to my sister she calls her mom as well. It doesn't bother me because I think the more moms a person can have the better. Everyone has a different answer as to how we should work out this delima of having two moms. They all have their idea of what a perfect family looks like and how we should press ourselves into that mold. What I know after two years, is that Erin will not be okay if her biological mom is not involved in her life and if Erin is not okay, we are not okay.
Sometimes I feel the stress of being a young mother and the presure of raising a child that is not my own. Then, I stumble across a card that she has made me or a letter she's written about her happy family and I can't imagine that there is any other path than the one we have chosen.

4 comments:

Aola said...

This made me cry...

I feel so blessed to have been around to watch your life play out over the last 10 years or so.
I knew from the first time I met you that you were one of those "special" people that just stand out in a crowd.
When everyone else was freaking out over you and David.. my comment was "good grief, people, we are talking about Sandy. She won't do something stupid."

You are an incredible person and I've said it before, many times, but I will say it again... Erin is a blessed little girl to have you in her life.

Sandra said...

Thanks for believing in me A. Your comment made me cry.

Kristen said...

Happy two years, Sandra.

Becky said...

What a thing to celebrate! Congrats.